Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Must Visit Website

The 3rd anniversary of my mum's passing is only a few weeks away, and despite the ever-growing gulf between my previous world that I enjoyed with my mum, and the quieter, more lonely one that I'm experiencing now, I'm still comforted by new websites and books that cross my path.

I have no idea how I missed Grief.com. This wonderful site belongs to author David Kessler. His book "Visions, Trips and Crowded Rooms" was one of the books that I leaned on in the months following mum's death. I still refer to it when I'm having a wobble and I need some support.

His website mirrors his books. It provides a safe haven for those of us who have lost a loved one, and still feel the emptiness that their absence brings.


Anonymous said...

thanks - a 2am session on the internet has brought some comfort - lost my best friend and mum 5 months ago - reading your blog, we had a very similar relationship - hoping there's more brightness in your days

you helped me carol x

Jackie said...

Hi Carol,
I'm so sorry for the loss of your mum. It sounds like you and your mum held a very special bond, and that you miss her terribly.

I'm pleased that my site could bring you a little bit of comfort. When I lost my mum (almost 4 years ago), I was desperate to find people or books that spoke to the emptiness and pain that overwhelmed me. It's a shame that we really have to dig to find this type of support. I think as a society we don't allow people to grieve properly. We need that time to reflect, remember and heal.

The pain you feel must be quite raw as it's only been 5 months since she passed away. In my experience, the ache remains with me, however, it's not as intense, and it's easier to manage. I still miss my mum terribly and think of her every day. And certain things - a memory, a photo, seeing someone who looks like my mum - can set me off all over again, but it has become easier to navigate my days, and I make sure to embrace joyful occasions just like my mum would have hoped that I would. I wish you much comfort in this new chapter of your life.